1. Honesty

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Honesty Honesty is the bedrock of healthy relationships with others and self-honesty is the foundation for personal growth and a life of integrity.  It all seems so simple: we are either honest or we aren’t.  There are many situations where it is straightforward to distinguish b…Read More

  2. Resentment and Forgiveness

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT The lens through which we perceive the world always contains an element of subjectivity.  That is, we are never entirely free of perceiving the world through our own unique filter, a filter consisting of our personality tendencies, our personal history, and our belief systems. For …Read More

  3. Overcoming Fear

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Joy, fear, and anger are three of the most basic human emotions. You can see all of these emotions in infants, young children, and certainly in us as adults as well. Of course, there are dozens of variations on emotion. Many of them originate out of these basic three. For example, a…Read More

  4. Coping with Humor

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Sometimes humor is the best weapon we have for fighting despair. In the moments we are laughing, we cannot feel despair.  Humor momentarily interrupts ruminating and worrying about how something has gone or how something will go in the future.  Certainly, there are times when grie…Read More

  5. Caregiving and Receiving Care

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT One of the most frequent topics that come up for my clients is the issue of caregiving. This is a role that may fall to any member of the family but usually seems to fall into our laps.  A large number of older women end up providing direct care for loved ones, usually parents and …Read More

  6. Learning to Live Alone

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Learning to Live Alone Most women will live alone at some point in their lives. This can happen for a number of reasons. Women may choose to remain single, become divorced, or become widowed.  These women may or may not establish a new relationship that progresses to the point of l…Read More

  7. Uplifting Experiences

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT   The quality of our lives is shaped by many forces. Some of these experiences were harsh, painful, or traumatic, but others have been inspiring, uplifting, and joyful. We tend to reflect upon the tragedies and disappointments and it sometimes seems more difficult to lean into thos…Read More

  8. Life as Risk

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT As we age, we are gradually and (sometimes suddenly) forced to give up our illusion that life is predictable and we have a large measure of control over our destiny. Of course, some of us lose this sense of predictability early in life due to a serious childhood illness, the death o…Read More

  9. Living in the Now

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT “Live in the now” is one of the most frequent pieces of spiritual advice we hear in our culture these days.  The concept is central to many of the Eastern philosophies and many spiritual and religious paths. It has been brought into Western culture and popularized by a variety …Read More

  10. The Books We Love

    Food for Thought Reading is a window that opens the world to us and opens us to the world.  Our capacity for abstract thought, reasoning, and language are a large part of what defines us as human. Listening and speaking are the fundamental ways we relate to one another through language. Reading gre…Read More