Dr. Beth, We have a 33 year old daughter who has been using alcohol and drugs since her middle teens.  Her experimentation with drugs and alcohol turned into regular use and started causing her legal and financial problems. And for the last five years, it seems like she has moved into full-blown alcoholism and probably uses other drugs as well.  She went from being a smart, kind, motivated young woman to a bitter, angry, volatile person. She blames everyone but herself for her problems. We have bailed her out of I don’t know how many legal, financial and housing problems connected with her drug and alcohol use. We are tired of feeling used and about ready to cut the financial cord, but I’m worried about what will happen to her if we stop coming to her rescue.