Dr. Beth, I am the divorced parent of 8 year old twin girls and a 10 year old boy and I share custody of the children with my wife.  Part of why we divorced was that she drank a lot and sometimes uses drugs and although I drink socially, I don’t drink a lot or drink around my kids and I don’t use drugs. Right now my main concern is that she has a new boyfriend and when the kids come over to my house they strongly hint that both she and her boyfriend are verbally and emotionally mean to them, especially when they are drinking. I don’t know if there is anything I can do, but I am worried about their well-being and their self-esteem being hurt by this situation. What are my options?