Dr. Beth, My life partner and I love each other tremendously and we have been together for 12 years now.  But sometimes we argue and get mad at each other and it seems totally needless. I might clean the garage or fix the window screen that she’s been complaining about and all she can do is ask me why I haven’t told her I love her today or didn’t compliment her cooking at breakfast. I just don’t get it.  I do these practical, helpful things for her because I love her and if someone did them for me I would be thrilled. But somehow I always end up feeling like I’ve disappointed her. Where are we going wrong?