Dr. Beth, I am writing because I am really confused and upset about how deal with a tricky situation involving my sister.  I am in my 40s and she is in her late thirties.  We used to be very close when we were kids. We shared a bedroom and considered ourselves to be best friends. Over the years we grew apart. We have very different personalities.  Part of why we grew apart is that I came out as gay in my twenties and she didn’t approve of my identity and has never let her children get to know me. In fact, she has kept a big distance between me and her family. Now she is getting a divorce and wants me to give her money. We haven’t spoken in years and there is no real relationship between us per se. What do I do?