Dr. Beth, I know holidays are supposed to be fun and special times but I absolutely hate holidays.  I came from a family where Dad was drunk every Thanksgiving and Christmas and my mother screamed at him non-stop.  Aunts and uncles also drank themselves into a stupor and stupid fights would erupt between family members.  Now I have a girlfriend with a “normal” family and she wants me to be part of her family’s holidays but I really don’t want to participate at all. Even the word holiday puts a bad taste in my mouth. What do I do?