Dr. Beth, The holidays are upon us and I am dreading them.  My mother died 7 months ago and this will be our first Thanksgiving and Christmas without her.  I am a single young adult and have always spent the holidays with my family.  My father is totally broken up about Mom’s death and says he doesn’t want to do anything at all for the holidays.  My brother and sister are also struggling, but all of us siblings would like to go forward with celebrating the holidays and making it a time of positive (though also sad) remembrance of our mother, who always loved the holidays.  I am especially concerned about my Dad. What is the right thing to do in this situation?