Growing up I lived in a fairly clean but very cluttered home. All my living spaces since the age of 20 have felt unorganized, not laid out the way they should have been or the way I wanted. Now, I’ve just moved in with my boyfriend after living with my parents for the past few years. It is important to me to make the space organized, functional, clean and comfortable — in a word, perfect. But the task feels daunting. I’m afraid I will ruin whatever I create or that it will never meet my standards. Why is this so stressful and why is homemaking (at least for me) so fraught with emotion?