Dear Beth, I need help in getting conversations going with women. I am an OK-looking, slightly shy 43 year-old male, and going to bars and stammering to women about their eyes just isn’t cutting it anymore. My problem is that I have trouble firing up conversations when I first meet women. I always feel like I might be an annoyance by even approaching them. As a woman, what advice would you give to me? When and where is it OK to approach women? And what do I say?