Dear Dr. Beth, My husband and I have two children, a girl 14 and a boy 16.  They are terrific children. They are both above average students, involved in school athletics and a few other activities.  Basically, we have no complaints. We love our children.   A couple of weeks ago our son told us that he is gay. It was a total shock to both my husband and me.  He doesn’t look or act gay. We are both pretty upset,  but want to be supportive. How do we respond to him?