Question: My mother and I have always had a rocky relationship. She was a single mom when I was growing up and had to work really hard to keep our family together. Her bitterness from that time period has increased over the years. Now thirty years have passed, and I can hardly have a conversation with her. The only things that come out of her mouth are negative or wallowing. I love her dearly and want to care for her, but I don’t know how to reach out to her. How can I help her get over the hard events in her life and help her to live her last years in peace? How can I come to terms with who my mother is?