1. Respect and Gratitude

    Life is difficult.  Life is often not fair, sometimes full of suffering and ultimately limited for all of us.  How do we cope with these truths? We cope by living, loving and doing the best we can with what we have.  And if we are smart or lucky, we discover the amazing tools of respect and grati…Read More

  2. Encouragement

    There are several definitions of the verb “encourage” in print and online dictionaries. These definitions include:  to “spur on”, to inspire with confidence, and to give hope or courage to another. When we encourage someone we contribute to the progress, growth, and healing of the other per…Read More

  3. The Four Tasks of Mourning

    Many people have heard of the five stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance — and can relate to at least some of the feelings. However, not everyone is completely aware of what they are feeling and not everyone goes through all five stages. Additionally, the five s…Read More

  4. Continuing to Work – Retiring with Grace

    One of the most common challenges confronting older women are the issues of work and retirement.  Many women have spent some period of time in the workplace and some have had long careers.  Of women over 65 years of age, a few continue to work in their original professions, some do related work, a…Read More

  5. Redefining Purpose as we Age

    One of the most common topics that arise in our group discussions and in my one-on-one counseling with older women is the question of life purpose. Some women have experienced a life-long struggle to define their sense of purpose in life, but many others have had a sense of purpose that has changed …Read More

  6. Moving

    It seems like the majority of older women that seek support and community are women who have moved here from an area where they used to live, often from another part of the country.  Women move for many reasons.  They may be moving to downsize from a larger home or property to a smaller, more mana…Read More

  7. The Next Generation

    As we get older, we go from being the next generation to giving birth to the next generation, and then that generation gives birth to the next—and on it goes.  Whether we have children ourselves or come into contact and connection with the younger generation in other ways, we can’t help but thi…Read More

  8. Loss of a Partner

    Loss of a partner is one of the most difficult changes we face in life, regardless of our age.  As older women, we face special challenges around these losses.  We can lose a partner due to a wide range of circumstances and for a variety of reasons. As we get older, illness leading to death is one…Read More

  9. Courageous Acts

    What is courage?  There are many ways to define courage. Some definitions I have come across include “strength in the face of pain or grief” and “the ability to do something that you know is difficult or dangerous”. Mark Twain has written, “Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting…Read More

  10. What we Save to Last 

    There are things we save and things we discard or give away.  As we get older, we are confronted with many decisions about what we wish to keep and what we need or want to put behind us.  Many women in their 60s, 70s, and 80s start weeding through decades of accumulated possessions, memorabilia, u…Read More