Dr. Beth, I am 35 years old and I grew up in a home where my mother and father fought often. Also, my mother often yelled at us. Sometimes we probably deserved it but often it was over the most trivial things.  Since having children of my own, I realize how easy it is to get annoyed at your children and even to get mad at them, but I seldom yell at them.  I now realize my mother was way over the top. Even now, my mother sometimes screams at me on the phone, just like she did when I was a child.  I feel like hanging up on her. How do I handle this?