Dear Dr. Beth, I have been struggling for years with a really embarrassing problem. I have been dressing in women’s clothes off and on since I was a teenager. In the last 10 years, I have often found myself having thoughts that I would be happier if I were a woman and could live that way all the time. I don’t remember anything that happened to me in my childhood that would cause me to be this way. It makes me hate myself and I have tried many things to get rid of these feelings—like serving in the military when I was younger, but even though I was a very good soldier, it didn’t make these feelings go away. I am confused and scared. What do I do about this?