Dr. Beth, I am 22 and I attend a university here in the area.  My question is about how to handle social situations when I’m out with my friends. I have had some good friends for the last year or two and we all like going out to hear music and socialize at the bars. However over time, several of my friends have gotten more and more into alcohol and some of them have started using pot and occasionally other drugs. Sometimes they act in ways that embarrass me and I really don’t enjoy being around them when they get really drunk or high. I still want to socialize with them, but I’m not sure how to handle the situation.