1. Listening

    We all long to be listened to and understood. Listening requires a quiet mind and a quiet heart. Listening well is at the heart of having fulfilling conversations and rich, rewarding relationships. When we think about conversation, we usually think about two people talking to each other, but the les…Read More

  2. Dealing with Health Challenges

    Health challenges are an ongoing part of the experience of getting older for the majority of women and men. A few people with happy genetic legacies and the good fortune not to have been in any bad accidents and never to have contracted any severe diseases can brag about how healthy they are and tha…Read More

  3. Changing Our Expectations

    We all have expectations. Some of our expectations relate to self, many are connected to other people, and many concern the world in which we live. For example, most of us expect ourselves to be honest and kind in our dealings with others. We expect others to do what they say they are going to do an…Read More

  4. Life as Risk

    As we age, we are gradually and (sometimes suddenly) forced to give up our illusion that life is predictable and we have a large measure of control over our destiny. Of course, some of us lose this sense of predictability early in life due to a serious childhood illness, the death of a parent or a d…Read More

  5. Uplifting Experiences

    The quality of our lives is shaped by many forces. Some of these experiences were harsh, painful or traumatic, but others have been inspiring, uplifting, and joyful. We tend to reflect upon the tragedies and disappointments and it sometimes seems more difficult to lean into those experiences that ha…Read More

  6. The Art of Conversation

    What do you think of when you think of having a conversation?  Do you think about the small conversations we have daily with our family or the people we come into incidental contact with at the grocery stores, work, or at a child’s school function? Or do you think of the “real” conversations …Read More

  7. Honesty

    Honesty is the bedrock of healthy relationships with others and self-honesty is the foundation for personal growth and a life of integrity.  It all seems so simple: we are either honest or we aren’t.  There are many situations where it is straightforward to distinguish between honesty and dishon…Read More

  8. Resentment and Forgiveness

    The lens through which we perceive the world always contains an element of subjectivity.  That is, we are never entirely free of perceiving the world through our own unique filter, a filter consisting of our personality tendencies, our personal history, and our belief systems. For example, one woma…Read More

  9. Overcoming Fear

    Joy, fear, and anger are three of the most basic human emotions. You can see all of these emotions in infants, young children, and certainly in us as adults as well. Of course, there are dozens of variations on emotion. Many of them originate out of these basic three. For example, anger in its extre…Read More

  10. Finding Love after 50, 60, 70 and Beyond

    A big part of our younger lives is centered around love.  We long to have someone special to love and to be loved in a unique, cherishing and special way.  The allure of romance permeates our cultural imagination, whether situated within our real, personal relationships or fantasized about in the …Read More