1. Redefining Purpose as we Age

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT One of the most common topics that arise in our group discussions and in my one-on-one counseling with older women is the question of life purpose. Some women have experienced a life-long struggle to define their sense of purpose in life, but many others have had a sense of purpose …Read More

  2. Your Bucket List

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT The idea of the bucket list was popularized in the 2007 film of the same name.  The "bucket list" refers to things we want to do before we "kick the bucket"--positive, life-enhancing things. The film features Morgan Freeman (Carter)and Jack Nicholson (Edward) as two older men who h…Read More

  3. Uplifting Experiences

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT The quality of our lives is shaped by many forces. Some of these experiences were harsh, painful, or traumatic, but others have been inspiring, uplifting, and joyful. We tend to reflect upon the tragedies and disappointments and it sometimes seems more difficult to lean into those e…Read More

  4. Caregiving and Receiving Care

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT One of the most frequent topics that come up for my clients is the issue of caregiving. This is a role that may fall to any member of the family but usually seems to fall into our laps.  A large number of older women end up providing direct care for loved ones, usually parents and …Read More

  5. Dealing with Health Challenges

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Health challenges are an ongoing part of the experience of getting older for the majority of women and men.  A few people with happy genetic legacies and the good fortune not to have been in any bad accidents and never to have contracted any severe diseases can brag about how healt…Read More

  6. Pride and Humility

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Pride and humility are two of the strongest and most misunderstood feelings and attitudes we experience in the course of our human existence.  Pride is usually discussed in one of two completely opposite contexts.  On the positive side, we may take pride in our work, in our parent…Read More

  7. Living in the Now

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Living in the Now “Live in the now” is one of the most frequent pieces of spiritual advice we hear in our culture these days.  The concept is central to many of the Eastern philosophies and many spiritual and religious paths. It has been brought into Western culture and popular…Read More

  8. Honesty

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Honesty Honesty is the bedrock of healthy relationships with others and self-honesty is the foundation for personal growth and a life of integrity.  It all seems so simple: we are either honest or we aren’t.  There are many situations where it is straightforward to distinguish b…Read More

  9. Resentment and Forgiveness

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT The lens through which we perceive the world always contains an element of subjectivity.  That is, we are never entirely free of perceiving the world through our own unique filter, a filter consisting of our personality tendencies, our personal history, and our belief systems. For …Read More

  10. Overcoming Fear

    FOOD FOR THOUGHT Joy, fear, and anger are three of the most basic human emotions. You can see all of these emotions in infants, young children, and certainly in us as adults as well. Of course, there are dozens of variations on emotion. Many of them originate out of these basic three. For example, a…Read More