1. Defining Marriage_Answer

    It sounds like your families have very similar generational patterns of power distribution in their respective marriages. This in itself is pretty interesting. I also find it interesting that the gender power balance shifted so dramatically between your grandparents’ generation and your parents’…Read More

  2. Defining Marriage_Question

    My fiancé and I are working towards combining our households. In the process, we are determining what we want our marriage to look like. Both of our grandparents have very man-authoritative centered marriages, and our parents seem to have woman dominated relationships. How do we find the balance, e…Read More

  3. Cheating – Can you stop_Answer

    Your question contains a lot of different questions. I will try to address some of them. People in a committed relationship begin hidden, secretive relationships or have purely sexual encounters with other people for a number of reasons. Frustration and dissatisfaction with their committed partner m…Read More

  4. Cheating – Can you stop_Question

    Is the saying once a cheater, always a cheater, true? Why do people cheat? Is it because they don't want to be with their partner or are there other underlying reasons? My husband cheated on me before we were married, but since then he has been devoted to me ... at least physically. The problem is t…Read More

  5. Sexuality in a relationship_Answer

    It sounds like you have a great passion for your girlfriend and that you miss her quite a bit when you can’t spend time together.  Physical intimacy, whether affectionate or sexual, is a natural part of our love relationships. Of course, physical intimacy is only one of many forms of intimacy. We…Read More

  6. Sexuality in a relationship_Question

    Dear Dr. Beth: Lately, I haven’t been able to spend as much time with my girlfriend as I want to. When I think of her--which is all the time--my mind wanders to intimacy. I’m worried that she might start to think that I only want her for her body, but my feeling is that making love to her and pl…Read More

  7. Spice up the romance_Answer

    Even the happiest of and healthiest of marriages can go through the doldrums. It is part of sharing everyday life with another person over a long period of time.  The stresses of life, health, money, children, and grandchildren as well as larger world issues impinge on our happiness at times.  I d…Read More

  8. Spice up the romance_Question

    Hi Dr. Beth, My wife and I have been married for 33 years. We both love and respect each other greatly, but I feel like the marriage is stuck in a rut. What are some ways to spice things up a little and bring back the romance?…Read More

  9. Body Image Help_Answer

    There are a number of people that struggle with this exact issue. It is not only a matter of self-esteem, it is clearly also a matter of “body esteem”. Most women and quite a few men struggle with issues of body dissatisfaction and insecurity about their attractiveness and desirability. When thi…Read More

  10. Body Image Help_Question

    Dr. Beth, is there any way to keep my self esteem from sabotaging my relationship? I work very hard to stay in shape and look good, but sometimes I still have a low opinion of my body -- and when I don't feel good about myself, I don't feel like being intimate with my partner. It's to the point…Read More