Food for Thought

How do we work with and accept the changes that are constantly occurring in our lives? What does it even mean to “accept change”? We all know that changes are constantly occurring both within our bodies and in the outside world. Change is sometimes dramatic, sometimes gradual, sometimes even imperceptible. Dramatic changes are the hardest to adjust to especially when they involve loss. When change is gradual, it provides us with time to process our changing experience or life circumstances and adjust to them physically, psychologically, and emotionally.

Changes that are unforeseen and imposed on us are the hardest. The current COVID-19 pandemic is a powerful example of this. The steps necessary to contain this highly contagious and often deadly virus have resulted in the imposition of the most severe restrictions of freedom experienced by most everyday Americans in their lifetimes. Weddings are being postponed, huge conferences and festivals are being canceled, people are dying in hospitals without the presence of their loved ones. Simple pleasures like being outdoors or taking a walk are unavailable to many.

Most of us are resourceful human beings, and the rest of us will need to learn to be resourceful and resilient. Accepting change, at a fundamental level, means accepting what is real and true in this moment and working with it. Accepting change means finding ways to move through the inevitable shock, grief, and depression associated with dramatic unforeseen change, finding creative ways to connect with others, and finding that space within that allows for some degree of equanimity and inner peace in the face of disruption, uncertainty, and chaos. Let us talk about ways to achieve this equanimity.

Questions to Consider:
1) What impact is the COVID-19 pandemic having on your life?
2) In addition to the extreme restrictions, are they also any unanticipated opportunities you have discovered?
3) What does “accepting change” look like and feel like to you? How resilient are you in the face of uninvited, drastic changes, and unanticipated circumstances?
4) What has helped you access the internal resources and resilience needed to survive the pandemic and perhaps find a few blessings in this drastic circumstance? Please share some of your thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

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