Food for Thought

As we age, we continue to seek sources of joy in our lives. Sometimes it seems that finding joy is more difficult as we reach and move beyond certain milestone events and decades, and in fact, this is probably true for most of us. It is hard to enter the next year or the next decade knowing that this brings us a year closer to the likelihood of illness, loss or even our mortality.

In our 60s or even 70s, we are young-old and these decades can be some of the best times of our lives. Coming into our own as mature adult women, released from the direct responsibilities of raising children, retiring from full-time employment and hopefully having a reasonable amount of money to live on can make this era of our lives uniquely free and satisfying. Even if not all these conditions are true—perhaps you still need to work or are helping raise a grandchild, there is still usually a lessening of responsibilities relative to earlier decades of life.

One of the most important things for us to do in this valuable time called “the present” is to cherish what we do have and to find and cultivate joy in as many experiences as possible. Despite the challenges of the later decades, we can find joy in many places. We encounter kind people, we can be kind to others, we can find joy in the happiness of those we love. We can find joy in growing things, helping others or just taking the time we never had before to savor sunsets, good food and loving moments.

Questions to Consider:
1) Do you find it more difficult to find sources of joy as you get older? Or perhaps easier?
2) What are some of the sources of joy in your present life?
3) Share any learnings, life events, books or role models who have helped you recognize and experience more joy in your life?
4) How can you shift your focus away from sorrow and in the direction of joy? Share what works for you.

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